The soul that is given over to the love of self, which is the self-centeredness and pride of the fleshly nature, is a soul that is at enmity with the living God who commands supreme love for Himself in all things. The soul will reject and be at enmity with His authority and His commands. The authority of God commands human beings to be holy as He is holy and to love Him with all of their beings. The unbroken and unregenerate heart is given over to self-love and hates the command to give up its own authority and to do things for God rather than for self. This self-focused soul may be orthodox in its theology and have the outer appearances of love and good works, but without the supreme love of God in all things that soul is doing all it does out of enmity toward God. The authority of God is rejected with open hostility by some, though in others they come up with different ideas about God. The natural human heart, though perhaps very religious, does not want the true God in its knowledge.
Down deep in our souls we know that self-centeredness, selfishness, and pride are hateful things. We do hate them when we see them in others, but instead of hating them out of love for God we hate them because of our own pride and self-centeredness. Those that are ruled by self-love will love those that love them (Luke 6:32), but those that are ruled by the love of God in them can love even their enemies. Since those that are ruled by self-love love those that love them, they love all things for self. As long as God is seen as benevolent toward them and doing what they see as good to them, they will love that idea of God. As long as others do what they want and in accordance with their self-love and interests, they will love them. But when self is crossed, the love of self blinds them to how hateful self-centeredness and pride is. Self-love will does its blinding work by interpreting all things in light of itself. The self-love and self-centeredness of others is hateful to me because it is against my self-love.
When we see the inner-workings of the soul in this light, the bright light of God’s holiness and love for Himself as triune can be seen. For God His self-love is His holiness and for Him to share His love for Himself and His holiness with others requires them to love Him as their holiness. But the unbelieving soul hates God’s self-centeredness and His love for Himself because self wants to rule rather than God. Isaiah 6:3 gives us a picture of the holiness of God: “And one called out to another and said, “Holy, Holy, Holy, is the LORD of hosts, The whole earth is full of His glory.” There is at least a connection between God being thrice holy and the whole earth being full of His glory. It is because God is holy that the whole earth is full of His glory. Isaiah 42:8 tells us of God’s holiness: “I am the LORD, that is My name; I will not give My glory to another, Nor My praise to graven images.” Isaiah 48:11 tells us even more of His holiness and glory: “For My own sake, for My own sake, I will act; For how can My name be profaned? And My glory I will not give to another.” His holiness is to be focused on Himself.
We can see, then, that a human being that does not live to the glory of God in intent and from love is living in direct opposition to God Himself. The enmity can be clearly seen in that the holiness of God is that He will do all out of love for Himself and His own glory and yet a sinful human being lives for self. John 5:44 puts it this way: “How can you believe, when you receive glory from one another and you do not seek the glory that is from the one and only God?” The pride and self-love of man wants to receive glory from human beings and in this the self-love and pride of man is displayed in its enmity toward God. The Pharisees prayed in order to receive honor from others (Mat 6:1, 5). They did not pray for the glory and honor of God as Jesus instructed (Mat 6:6), but they prayed in order to be seen and honored by men. They gave alms and fasted in order to receive notice and honor from men (Mat 6:2, 16). This shows us that it is possible to preach and do all sorts of religious activities from love for self and the desire to gain the notice and honor of human beings. If we do those things in order to be noticed and honored by men, we are at enmity with the living God who does all things for His own glory.
The book of Revelation speaks of what men need to repent of: “Men were scorched with fierce heat; and they blasphemed the name of God who has the power over these plagues, and they did not repent so as to give Him glory” (16:9). On the other hand, Psalm 115:1 shows us the heart of those that love God: “Not to us, O LORD, not to us, But to Your name give glory Because of Your lovingkindness, because of Your truth.” The one that loves God prays not to receive glory, but that the glory would be God’s. When sinners seek honor for self they are at enmity with the God who does all for His own glory. Wherever a person is seen that desires to be seen by men and to seek honor for self, there is a person that is in open enmity with God. If the person is using religious things to seek self, that person is even more at enmity with God. Self-love and pride is not just to focus on self more than what is healthy, it is to be in open warfare in its enmity toward the living God. Hatred for God is very common.